A sacred circle of hospitality, meditation,
spiritual questions & conversations.
Healing Words - Part I
Sunday, March 12th on Zoom
10:30 AM to Noon
For a Zoom Invite:
The Program:
Welcome and Meditation Marcia Flagg and Patrice Haan, Harpist
1. When did you have a conversation that seemed to sing in your mind for weeks
afterward? Such communication is food and drink for the soul.
John O’Donohue
2. Nourishing and healing communication is the food of our relationships. Thich Nhat Hanh
3. Emotional intelligence relates to our interpersonal skills, founded on emotional self-awareness and empathy & emotional self-management. Cindy Wigglesworth SQ21
Intro: Emotional Intelligence- Video Daniel Goleman
Emotional Awareness
4. Many of us do not spend a lot of time communicating with ourselves. The result is we don’t know what is going on within us. Thich Nhat Hanh
5. “Know thyself” speaks to the keystone of emotional intelligence: awareness of one’s own feelings as they occur. Socrates/Daniel Goleman
6. Emotional awareness is a crucial skill because if we do not understand our own emotions it is nearly impossible to accurately understand and have empathy with another person's emotions. Furthermore, if we do not understand our own emotions and what triggers them, it is hard to exercise appropriate self-control. Cindy Wigglesworth-Spiritual Quotient
7. Emotion is any agitation or disturbance of mind, feeling, passion; or any
vehement or excited mental state. Oxford English Dictionary
Music Video. “Nowhere Man” Beatles sung by Natalie Merchant
8. “Life offers its wisdom generously. Everything teaches. Not everyone learns.” Rachel Naomi Remen
Emotional Intelligence- Self Management
9. Anger: fury, outrage, resentment, wrath, exasperation, indignation, vexation, acrimony, animosity, annoyance, irritability, hostility. The extremes of anger are pathological hatred and violence
Oxford English Dictionary
10.Anyone can become angry-- that is easy. But to be angry with the right person, to the right degree, at the right time, for the right purpose, and in the right way -- that is not easy. Aristotle
11. It's better to cry than to be angry; because anger hurts others, while tears flow silently through the soul and cleanses the heart. Pope John Paul II
12. Fear: anxiety, apprehension, distress, nervousness, concern, consternation, misgiving, weariness, qualm, edginess, dread, fright, terror. The extremes of fear in psychopathology are phobia and panic.
Oxford English Dictionary
13. Attunement to others demands a modicum of calm in oneself. Self-management is the capacity to damp down anger and distress, impulses, and excitement. In other words, calm and direct oneself emotionally. Daniel Goleman
Emotional Contagion
14. When two people interact, the direction of mood is transferred from the one who is more forceful in expressing feelings to the one who is more passive. They are more readily moved by someone else's feelings. Daniel Goleman
Music Video: “Friendship” by Cole Porter Lucille Ball/Vivian Vance
15. Emotions are contagious. We transmit and catch moods from each other in which some encounters are toxic, some nourishing. We catch feelings from one another as though they were some kind of social virus. Daniel Goleman
16. The key to social competence is how well or poorly people express their own feelings. It is important to ascertain which feelings can be properly shown and when. Daniel Goleman
17. Emotional Synchrony occurs when people are adept at attuning to people's moods or can easily bring others under the sway of their own. If they are an effective speaker, politician, or performer they can entrain the emotions of the audience. This entrainment is the heart of influence."
Frank Burnieri, Psychologist
Video: Healing Words of Bobby Kennedy
18. These social abilities of self-management and empathy allow one to shape an encounter, mobilize and inspire others, thrive in intimate relations, persuade, and influence and put others at ease. Daniel Goleman
Emotional Intelligence – Empathy
19. Empathy builds on self-awareness; the more open we are to our own emotions, the more skilled we will be in reading other’s feelings. Daniel Goleman
20.The sentiment expressed by John Donne-“Never send to know for whom the bell tolls; it tolls for thee” speaks to the heart of the link between empathy and caring: another’s pain is one’s own. Daniel Goleman
21. The goal of compassionate communication is to help others suffer less. Thich Nhat Hanh
Video Song “Kind and Generous”- Natalie Merchant